What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a women, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
❞Lady, You Really Aren’t “Crazy” (via sparkamovement)
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Charles Bukowski.
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All I’ve done recently is closed my eyes and wish I was somewhere else. I’ve been reading books, watching films and listening to music that takes me to other places.
Somewhere where the sun shines and people don’t let me down. Somewhere where material possessions just don’t matter. Somewhere where a moment is everlasting and isn’t just a memory I know I can never relive. Somewhere where people’s differences are celebrated and comparisons don’t intrude. I’ve felt a sense of freedom and purity in those other places. I’ve been clinging onto those other places for as long as I can until reality brings me back down again.
I’m so sick of this place. Everything about it. I hate the weather and how rude people can be and I hate that I know I can’t escape forever or any time soon for that matter. I just want to leave everything behind and go to a place where I know I’ll be happier.
Somewhere light-years away from here.
❞I want to go somewhere
And I mean, really somewhere. I feel so trapped by my surroundings. It’s like, I’ll go somewhere, and I’ll do something, and I’ll have fun but I’ll wake up the next day in the same room and it’s like it never happened.
This is one simple thing that I can never seem to get my head around. Like when you say goodbye to someone and know that you might never see them again.. No matter how close you are to that person, or how long you’ve known that person; hours, days, months, years. It’s weird to think that straight…
Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close
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